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The Key to Happiness is Smaller Than You Think
Changing this one thing will make you happier, even if it doesn’t always feel great in the moment. Make the most of your 29k days on Earth.
With one hand on the doorknob, ready to leave the house, I looked back at my husband and groaned. “Why do we do this to ourselves?” I asked, envious of the human-sized dent he pressed into our couch. “Why do we put things on our calendars knowing we probably won’t want to go when the time comes?”
“I don’t know.” He shook his head with enthusiasm, then glanced back at the soccer game, pleased with himself for not making the same mistake I had.
With that, I strolled out the door, off to my doom — a mimosa-fueled brunch with good friends at a restaurant I’d heard great things about.
I’m not sure when I started dreading doing things that sounded great on paper. Probably sometime between marriage, babies, and pandemics. But the more I talk to friends about the issue, the more I realize I’m not alone. Collectively, middle-aged humans don’t want to do sh*t. Not really. What we want to do, is order delivery, slip into an elastic waistband, and get elbow-deep into a TV series while doom scrolling on our phones.
What my friends and co-workers all agreed on was this: in our 20s, we looked forward to social plans. The bigger, the better…
